Trust me…

Together these are two of the most powerful words in the English language. The reason that they’re so powerful is because this phrase is a ‘request’ for power. The speaker is asking the listener to give up their power and put their faith in the one talking. This is NEVER easy to do because we all have our perceptions, concepts and ways of doing things. To give up this power is deep, even if only for a moment…

The problem that we face is that, all too often, we’ve been hurt or our trust has been hampered with. Our barriers of trust are always on full alert. We don’t want to let anyone in because we “can’t take another blow”. Sometimes our pride comes in and we feel like they don’t know what they’re talking about, they can’t do the job as well as me or they don’t understand my point of view.

As great leaders, we must first be great followers. There should never come a time when we aren’t following someone and I’m not just talking about being lead by God. No, we should always be connected. Always growing, always learning, always depositing… You see, we were designed to receive AND give. When we deny one of these two principles then we create dysfunction.

I’ve been a leader in more than a few different businesses. The ones that are the most successful are those that allow people to function in their roles. Why have a staff if YOU are going to do all of the work? At times, I am guilty and fall prey to this method of dysfunction. But, I’ve also told my people to pull me back in when I ‘step on their toes’. People can’t maximize their potential if we teach them how to do something and then WE do it.

There has to come a time when we, leaders, have to step back and trust them. We’ve taught you what to do… now do it. As leaders, we are there to oversee but when we feel that need to always jump in and take over then what good is that really doing? What are we teaching them when we do that? What are they learning? When we consistently do that, the people development isms and schisms about performing their duties. They can become unstable and unsure of themselves, which can literally stunt their growth and potential.

The crazy part is that the stronger the people are the more likely they will be to find outlets to function properly. There is an innate need, or desire, to get it done. Some will persevere and wait with us to get it together, while others will do the work elsewhere. Over the years, I’ve seen some of the greatest talent mishandled by overbearing leaders who wouldn’t allow them to do what they do. And the result is that they simply went somewhere else where they had the freedom to be themselves.

As leaders, we ask the people to trust us but guess what… The people are asking us leaders to trust them.

I love you ALL!!!
Stay Blessed,
Jackie

 

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Another letter about Change…

The funny thing about change is that it is personal, even when change affects a group of people. I don’t care who you are, or what role you play, there comes a time when there is an understanding that change affects you personally and that no one else truly cares about how change is affecting you because they’re concerned with how that change is affecting them. So today, I will talk about group change…

Over the past several months, I’ve been party to major change. The happenings of this event are widespread and it affects a great many people. One of the gifts that God has given me is a listening ear AND people feel very comfortable and free to talk to me. Sometimes, this gift is very cool to have but most times not. I don’t have to ask about things because people generally just start sharing. So, when it has come to this event, I’ve heard from a lot of people concerning it. One of the most consistent themes from everyone is the longing for someone to understand where they are coming from and how this event is affecting them. But, on many levels, they are all having very similar feelings.

Personally, this event is ripping me apart from the inside out. On one level, I see and feel the hurt and pain that people are feeling. On another level, I understand how those in leadership are dealing with and are affected by the event. Still another level, as a leader myself, knowing how the decisions that I make can have a ripple affect throughout the entire organization. Another level, the family… how does the event affect each person’s families? Then there’s God… What does God have to say about all of this? This level is the end all be all…

The interesting thing about it is that no one really wants to talk about it. We talk around it. We make various insinuations about it. We may even talk in code about it. But, no one wants to just be real. This event is coming at us like a runaway freight train and our car is stuck on the tracks. It has even gotten to the point where I’ve been asked not to write about it. Wow!!! My first dealings with censorship!!! Now, the thing that you fail to grasp is that these letters are based totally on MY LIFE FROM MY EYES!!! When it comes down to it, I am GUILTY of this one thing… I don’t care about how YOU feel about MY life!!! If it walks like a duck, talks like a duck, flies like a duck… then it’s a duck!!!

Another interesting piece is support. People may say that they are supportive of whatever your decisions are but let’s be totally honest… they’ve also made decisions and would rather that your decisions would match theirs. What makes this interesting is that as friends, family and associates, we want our people to be in agreement with us and we will rollout a campaign to encourage that agreement. Unfortunately, if a decision had been made and it doesn’t agree with your campaign then someone is not going to be happy.

My prayer is that we all be unified especially, today and in the days to come. We need each other more and more as the days go by, more than anyone will admit. I have to say this, “I need YOU!!!” I am in a very delicate position and I’m not afraid to reach out… I NEED YOU!!!

I pray for the Joy of the Lord to be released, for the Joy of the Lord is our Strength. We need the Strength of God, the Peace of God and Love of God. We need the Wisdom of God to understand of how His Will is being done in us in the midst of our struggles. I speak blessings to each one of you. In Jesus’ name… Amen.

I love you ALL!!!
Stay Blessed,
Jackie