12 Relationship Truths… Pt 6-12/12

Today, I’m wrapping this series up!!!

(6) Some people are meant to stay in your heart, but not in your life.

The short version is this… As I explained the other day, everything changes and with it people change. The person that you knew yesterday isn’t the person of today. Some folks need to be left in history and remembered for who they were at that time… Some people haven’t matured like a fine wine but they’ve just gotten older and moldy. The Bible tells us to know people by their fruit. Become a fruit inspector. Check ‘em out and if they are rotten… keep it pushing!!!

(7) Everyone has baggage, just like you.

Your history has created the person you see in the mirror every day. Whether good, bad, or indifferent, we all carry pieces of our past in our every day existence. We may spend a lot of time covering up the parts that we don’t like but, guess what? Like it or not, those things will be exposed. The crazy part is that we have a tendency to act as if our new friend has perfection coursing thru their veins. Well, I’m sorry to be the one to tell you but, NOOOOOOO!!!! Just as jacked up as YOU are, so are THEY!! The key is that you know your triggers and how to avoid them. You don’t know theirs. Don’t be blind. We’re all in the same boat…

(8) Love doesn’t hurt

Love is a great thing. The problem is that the word is soo overused that its true meaning and weight is diminished. The Message Bible describes love this way…

Love never gives up.
Love cares more for others than for self.
Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have.
Love doesn’t strut,
Doesn’t have a swelled head,
Doesn’t force itself on others,
Isn’t always “me first,”
Doesn’t fly off the handle,
Doesn’t keep score of the sins of others,
Doesn’t revel when others grovel,
Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth,
Puts up with anything,
Trusts God always,
Always looks for the best,
Never looks back,
But keeps going to the end.
Love never dies.
Being human, we do make mistakes here and there but if what you’re experiencing isn’t that… then you’re not experiencing love.

(9) Forgiveness is always the right choice.

One of the hardest things to accomplish is forgiveness. Trust me, I know. I have been known to “be mad” at someone for decades!!! Within the last 6 months, I just truly forgave a person that hurt me almost 30 years ago AND I told them. You see, forgiveness is like a muscle relaxer. Once you take it, you feel the relief. I didn’t realize how much unforgiveness had guided my life until I started forgiving people. The first person that I forgave was ME. I haven’t always made the best choices, right decisions or been the best person. I can’t start dealing out forgiveness to others and I’m still beating myself up… It just doesn’t work well that way.

(10) Love requires three things: acceptance, honesty, and commitment.

This one is powerful to me. Just so you know, I had to step away to compose myself after thinking about this title. How many times have you looked at that special someone and fell in love with their potential, their future, or who they can become? The first true step in love is ACCEPTING them for who they are NOW. Secondly, we need to be transparent with each other. We need to be open and HONEST about who we are. We have to let our guards down and allow them to know the real us. Finally, we have to be in it for the long haul. That whole “thru thick and thin”, “hell or highwater”, “better or worse”… You get what I’m saying. But, check this out… This doesn’t ONLY apply to marital bliss but friendships as well. I love my friends and I am COMMITTED to our relationships!!!

(11) A big part of who you become is who you choose to surround yourself with.

Birds of a feather flock together and they all fly the same way. If you want a life full of love then, surround yourself with loving people. It’s not rocket science but it is hard. It’s hard because many times we allow life to push us in directions that we don’t really want to go and then we stay there as if that’s what was supposed to happen. Don’t stay in that trap!! You weren’t meant to be alone. You weren’t meant to lack love but be full of love. So, start changing your circles of influence!!!!

(12) A soul mate is a person who brings out the best in you

The greatest, most beautiful-est, and most illusive person to find is your soul mate. You see, you only get one. Many people have gone thru their entire lives and never found them whereas some have found them as children. The thing about your soul mate is that they pull out the best in you. They encourage you when you can’t see the light of day. The thought of them brings joy to your heart and a smile to your face. Your soul mate is the picture of perfection in your eyes. Even though they may not actually BE perfect, it doesn’t really matter. Life will bring its ups and downs but they will be there with you thru it all and you don’t mind the storms because of them…

I love you ALL!!!
Stay Blessed,


A secret…

Letter from 2012-12-04

I have a secret that I’m only going to share with you. So, do me a favor and let’s keep this just between you and I. Confidentiality is a must and I know I can trust you…

You’ve know me for a while now. Like any person I have my good and bad days. Lately, it seemed more bad than good. But, as I was laying there last night, I remembered something that I had not been practicing. Something shook me, smacked me around and said, “Dude, remember the laws!!!”. The laws? Oh yeah, the LAWS!!! I had been soo engulfed in my everyday issues that I completely forgot the laws. I am such am dum-dum. How can you forget the laws? They are always working whether you remember, or not, and it’s up to you to use the laws in YOUR favor. Oh, right. I’m sorry. You don’t know the laws? Well, there are two that I’m referring to right now…

The 1st Law – Reciprocity…

The Bible refers to this law as reap and sow. Some call it karma. Some call it “what goes around, comes around”. Basically, whatever you put out is what you’re going to get back. This law is always in effect. Just as I wrote about how your emotions affect your vision. That was just a component of this law. When you are positively charged, you will see positive things but the same is true in reverse.

Check this out, there was this commercial that showed a lady doing something nice for another person, then that person did something nice for someone else, then that person did something nice for another person until (if you noticed), someone did something nice for the first lady. It’s all reciprocal.

Have you ever felt that you’ve had a string of ‘bad luck’? Well, guess what? The law is working. One bad decision lead to another, then another, and so on. So, that’s the first law. Then there is…

The 2nd Law – Attraction…

The Bible refers to this as ‘thinking on these things’, or ‘seeking first the kingdom’. It has also been penned as ‘see it, say it, believe it, receive it’. You mentally see what you want, picture yourself having it, using it, partaking in it (imagination). You verbalize, speak or declare what you want (verbal reinforcement). You keep your focus on what you saw / said, not being distracted by life (believe it). And, don’t trip when this part happens… you get what you saw, spoke and believed!!!

The interesting thing is that we are generally victims rather than victors of attraction. Have you ever left for an appointment and was worried about being late? Well, guess what happened? You ran into every traffic light, slow driver and school zone imaginable. We saw ourselves being late, said I don’t want to be late and focused on that the entire trip. Well, received what we asked for…

All too often life happens to us and we respond to life. What should happen is that we should be happening to life!!!! We have to power to fulfill our destinies. So, are we going to be dis-tracted or are we going to at-tract?The crazy thing about these two laws is that they overlap!!! The more positive that we become, the more that we focus on good things… The more good things that we do, the more positive that we become… It’s a never ending cycle!!!

Do good to those around you. Set your goals. See yourself in them. Write them down. Speak and declare what you’ve written. And finally, don’t trip when the good that’ve done and the goals that you’ve set come into your life!!!

Now can you keep a secret, or are you going to share it with someone?

I love you ALL!!!
Stay blessed,