The other side of change…

Yesterday, I tried really hard to stay focused on being thankful and, for the most part, I was successful. One of the things that occurred was the realization that we focus on the negative so much, that we totally miss the positives on most things. When it comes to change, we already understand that it is hard. We already know that it is unwanted. We already know that sometimes change can be unbearable. I have a question for you… What about the other side of change?

The other side of change is recognizing that change is GOOD. In most cases, change is needed. And when we look back over our lives, change has given us great experiences.

One definition of change is to make a shift from one to another. THAT is what I want to focus on!!! I want to focus on the “another”. I’m not going to act like the current, or the former, doesn’t/didn’t exist, but I sure can start looking forward to what lies ahead. I remember when I was working at Walmart making five dollars an hour. I was very happy with my job. I went to work with a smile on my face everyday. But, I also remember when I applied for that job making eight dollars an hour. I was so nervous about whether, or not, I’d get the job and if I could handle the ‘pressure’ of fulfilling the job and making ‘that kind of money’. I have to laugh at that now because, that was quite a few years ago. Six years ago when we moved back to Ohio from Florida (a whole different story), I had no problem walking into an organization with a firm twenty plus dollars an hour minimum. The crazy part is that I didn’t mind walking right out the door when I was offered less. But, that’s because of change. I no longer felt the same way about five dollars an hour because I grew!!

How many of us have these stories? Better yet, how many stories like this do we all have? The stories of change happen to us every single day and I dare to say that most of these stories ARE positive. Think about it… getting that new job, catching the bus to work, that new relationship, driving home that new car, the birth of a child, a promotion on your job, getting a ride you’re your car was down, taking that day off of work, getting your car fixed… This list will go on and on. It’s all about our point of view, our perspective.

The secret to living a fulfilled life is all about perspective. We need to remember the Secret, the Law of Attraction. We create our own realities. If you focus on the negative then, that will be what you attract. But, if you focus on the good and positive then you will get just that!!! What it takes is a conscious decision and purposed determination.

So, how do we fix it? The fix is already residing between your ears. We need to focus intently on the good parts of change and remember that when God allows one door to be shut then, another door will open. We just can’t walk around with our heads hung down, sulking, reminiscing on times past and mourning the shutting door. We need keep our eyes on the one that is opening!!! Great times are ahead!!!

Today’s assignment is to Celebrate!!!! Find ways to celebrate ALL of the various areas of Change that are happening in your life, right now!!! Don’t put it off!! Do it TODAY!!!! You already know that I’m a little off but, how about throwing an actual Change Party!!! Invite your friends, family and ‘change partners’ over and CELEBRATE!!! A new season has arrived! It’s time for JUBILEE!!!!

I love you ALL!!!
Stay Blessed,
Jackie

 

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Change is never easy…

This was one of the last things our pastor said this morning on our prayer call. A truer statement would be hard to find… There are 3 categories of change that I’ll talk about today – Wanted, Needed, and Natural Change.

Change that’s WANTED is like upgrading your car or TV. Your current one works and there’s nothing wrong with it. But, there is a desire to “up your game”. Many of us, make these changes over time. The desire is ever present but we don’t mind waiting for the ‘right time’ to make that change. Generally, this change is minor and only affects a small number of people.

NEEDED change, on the other hand, has urgency to it. Stressful, or unhealthy, situations are cause for needed change. Many of our jobs or relationships NEED changed. The difference here is that the need can supersede rationale and decisions can be made irrationally and the affect has a much broader reach.

NATURAL change unlike wanted or needed change has nothing to do with YOU. You know the phrase, “Life Happens”. Well, God preordained some things during creation and one of those is change. Living in Ohio, I can want and need Summer to be everlasting. But, guess what? It ain’t happening. Why not? If a prophet can hold up the rain then why can’t we speak to the atmosphere and cause summer to be neverending? Well, the reality of my desire is this. I want something that this area doesn’t provide. So, why not just move back to Florida? That would be the appropriate change.

You see, people change. The weather changes. Seasons change. Change is all around us. Some change we can control whereas other changes are thrust upon us. What matters isn’t the change itself but how you handle it.

It’s like when I was growing up. I didn’t necessarily agree with everything that my parents told me to do. But, here’s the message… I can do what I was asked and get it over with or I could rebel, get a whoopin’, and THEN do what I was asked. Either way, the change happened. We can go down kicking and screaming or we can just make the move and be done with it. It’s up to you…

There really isn’t a fix for change but an update to our attitude towards it. When change is upon you… Survey the situation, appropriately categorize it, make the decision(s) about it, and move on… Fighting only makes change more difficult and stressful. Be a peace and go with the flow.

I love you ALL!!!
Stay Blessed,
Jackie