Is this for real?

The greatest obstacle to change is fear. We don’t want to change because we are afraid of the outcome. We are afraid of leaving what is comfortable to us. We are simply afraid. But, have you ever stopped to think about how you got to where you are now? You got to this place because of change.

I don’t care where you currently are… You didn’t start there. Just like today, yesterday we were looking at change with fear and uncertainty but something hit and change happened. Many of us are stubborn changers. Yes, stubborn changers. You know that it’s time to change. God has opened the heavens, showed you a sign, hit you on the head, and gave you a direct message saying, “It’s time to change” but you look at the message and reply, “Okay God, as soon as I’m done.” The interesting part is that, for me, this refusal to move is dipped in faithfulness, sprinkled in love, and wrapped in loyalty. But, the outcome of that is disobedience and hard-headedness…

When we don’t move WHEN God says, then we set ourselves, and others, up for the woo-woo!!! For those who don’t know, the woo-woo is where God says, “Since YOU won’t move, I’ll move you!!” Being forced to move by the Hand of God isn’t nice but, WE keep forcing His Hand. When He moves us, things get crazy. Many times, people’s feelings get hurt, the world is turned upside-down, and you literally have no choice but to move. I’ve seen it where God actually shutdown a business that I was working for in order to make me move. I recently saw where God used someone’s extreme illness as that “final straw” to bring a family back together.

But, here’s the fun part, when we move when it IS time… Oh My Goodness!!! When we move in God’s timing, things just seem to work. There’s no struggle. Things fall into place and it’s amazing. Instead of having the bumps and bruises of God’s forced Hand, we are left with smiles and wonderment, asking, “Is this for real?” But, we had to move at the right time. We have to overcome ourselves and the fears about change…

By no means am I saying that this is easy. Some of our fears are truly justified. There have been situations in our past that truly brought hurt and pain. The sheer thought of repeating similar situations only bring these feelings and fears back to the top. No one wants to repeat those times. But guess what? Fear is in the head. Faith is in the heart. We have to being willing to open our hearts and trust God that those crazy parts of change won’t be repeated. We have to give our hearts to change.

All I know is this… God created YOU as a creature of change. To ignore, or try to disallow, change is like drinking a gallon of water and expecting not to pee. Change is in you and must come out. The great part about it is that when we feel that urge AND handle our business… the weight will be lifted, we will be refreshed and rejuvenated AND we will be ready to take on the world!!!

Here’s the wrap-up,
You are greater than you give yourself credit. Don’t allow fear to keep you in a place where God has to force you to change. Move IN His timing and ALL things will be well. And if you’re afraid to move and need a friend, I’ll always be here to help you…

I love you ALL!!!
Stay Blessed,
Jackie

 

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It’s time to come out of the cave!!!

Quick question: Who wants to be the first person to ask a question? Answer: No one. The funny thing is that our lives are build around firsts. Do you remember the first time you rode a bicycle? Do you remember getting your first job? Do you remember meeting that special someone for the first time? All of these moments are super special and once we accomplished those firsts, our lives were changed forever.

I was talking to a guy the other day and he made a statement that was just too profound. Regarding change, he said that he had been soo programmed by the past that even when the environment and the opportunities came for change, he simply would back up from it and revert back to the original programming. Wow… You see, we all have gone into the Cave of Adullam. The word Adullam means refuge, sealed off place or fortress. This place is a place of refreshing, comfort and training. The problem that many of us face, just like my friend, is that we’ve been comforted, refreshed and trained but are afraid to step out. And guess what, “Fear is the mind-killer!” We are simply afraid of the unknown. But, let me help you…

Another question: Who was the first person that saw a lobster and said, “Hmm, I want to eat that.”? What was going on in this person’s life that lobster even became an option for food. And when do you go all the way thru the process to actually eat the lobster. First you have to consider it, then catch it, then prepare it, and finally eat it. Each step of the process has it’s own challenges.

The first step is considering the option. I know that there were plenty of other options available before lobster became an option. Being seafood, why didn’t they just eat some more fish? That, my friend, is today’s revelation. Sometimes, you’re tired of eating fish, just like everyone else. Within each of us is, what I call, the “Had Enough Gauge” that measures just that, when we’ve had enough. Once, that gauge reaches its peak, the traditional options are no longer satisfying or an option.

The second step is to catch it. Find out more about this option. Do some research but, let me warn you about something. Many times, we haven’t tasted that sweet succulent lobster because we’ve been researching it for the last three decades!! After you’ve studied it and how / when it moves (trends), when you see what it eats (its market share) and when you see what eats it (benefit to others) then you can make some decisions about moving forward. But, all that is good but you still don’t know what the lobster tastes like doing all of that research. The older I have gotten, the bolder I have gotten. Personally, I’m tired of sticking my toe in the water just to know what I already know. And that is, the water is cold. The funny thing is that when we jump in, the water gets warmer faster…

After we catch it, we need to prepare it. Do we eat it raw? Do we freeze it and make popsicles? Do we boil, sauté or fry it? Do we cut it up or leave it whole? These are ALL options but there’s one little thing that I’ve forgotten to mention. That is the lobster’s cry!!! Anyone that has ever made fresh lobster knows that it doesn’t want to die AND it makes an unmistakable and unforgettable sound during the process. If you let it, this sound can change your mind about the whole process. The crazy part is that CHANGE DOESN’T WANT TO CHANGE!!!! But, we can’t get side-tracked by what happens during the process. We’ve made up our minds and we are going to EAT the lobster!!!

Finally, after considering, catching and preparing the lobster, it’s time to eat it. It looks good. Smells good. Now, for the taste test… Wow. It was either worth it all or maybe this just isn’t for me. Every step, has two outcomes. It is either a yes or a no. And there’s nothing wrong with not liking the outcome. Maybe, you don’t like boiled lobster, but like it as a soup or fried. But, the fun part is the process itself. At least you can say, “I don’t like lobster hash because I had it.”

I used lobster in this scenario but we can apply these steps to every area of change that we face. The steps are always the same. What makes the difference is are you listening to your ‘Had Enough Gauge’, are you willing to overcome your FEAR, and are you willing to pinch your nose, close your eyes and take a bite.

Many of the most notable, successful people in history, and in the world today, are the greatest failures ever. What makes them successful and not complete failures is their mindsets. I read a comment to a FaceBook post that said, “just keep voting Democrat and let those greedy 2% pay our way!” The response from another person was simply this, “you won’t be in the 98% that’s for sure!” The point that I’m making is that this is an example of two different mindsets. What’s even more interesting is that the original post was from a man that is soon to be a multi-millionaire (one of the 2%)…

Change is never easy, to start. But, the benefits of change are great. You’ve been prepared for change, thru your time of comfort, refreshing, and training. It’s time to come out of the cave!!!

I love you ALL!!!
Stay Blessed,
Jackie