Is this for real?

The greatest obstacle to change is fear. We don’t want to change because we are afraid of the outcome. We are afraid of leaving what is comfortable to us. We are simply afraid. But, have you ever stopped to think about how you got to where you are now? You got to this place because of change.

I don’t care where you currently are… You didn’t start there. Just like today, yesterday we were looking at change with fear and uncertainty but something hit and change happened. Many of us are stubborn changers. Yes, stubborn changers. You know that it’s time to change. God has opened the heavens, showed you a sign, hit you on the head, and gave you a direct message saying, “It’s time to change” but you look at the message and reply, “Okay God, as soon as I’m done.” The interesting part is that, for me, this refusal to move is dipped in faithfulness, sprinkled in love, and wrapped in loyalty. But, the outcome of that is disobedience and hard-headedness…

When we don’t move WHEN God says, then we set ourselves, and others, up for the woo-woo!!! For those who don’t know, the woo-woo is where God says, “Since YOU won’t move, I’ll move you!!” Being forced to move by the Hand of God isn’t nice but, WE keep forcing His Hand. When He moves us, things get crazy. Many times, people’s feelings get hurt, the world is turned upside-down, and you literally have no choice but to move. I’ve seen it where God actually shutdown a business that I was working for in order to make me move. I recently saw where God used someone’s extreme illness as that “final straw” to bring a family back together.

But, here’s the fun part, when we move when it IS time… Oh My Goodness!!! When we move in God’s timing, things just seem to work. There’s no struggle. Things fall into place and it’s amazing. Instead of having the bumps and bruises of God’s forced Hand, we are left with smiles and wonderment, asking, “Is this for real?” But, we had to move at the right time. We have to overcome ourselves and the fears about change…

By no means am I saying that this is easy. Some of our fears are truly justified. There have been situations in our past that truly brought hurt and pain. The sheer thought of repeating similar situations only bring these feelings and fears back to the top. No one wants to repeat those times. But guess what? Fear is in the head. Faith is in the heart. We have to being willing to open our hearts and trust God that those crazy parts of change won’t be repeated. We have to give our hearts to change.

All I know is this… God created YOU as a creature of change. To ignore, or try to disallow, change is like drinking a gallon of water and expecting not to pee. Change is in you and must come out. The great part about it is that when we feel that urge AND handle our business… the weight will be lifted, we will be refreshed and rejuvenated AND we will be ready to take on the world!!!

Here’s the wrap-up,
You are greater than you give yourself credit. Don’t allow fear to keep you in a place where God has to force you to change. Move IN His timing and ALL things will be well. And if you’re afraid to move and need a friend, I’ll always be here to help you…

I love you ALL!!!
Stay Blessed,



Fear and Faith… two sides of the same coin.

Growing up in church, we have always been taught to have faith; the just shall live by faith; if you have mustard seed faith; contend for the faith; the trying of your faith; and more faith. Faith is the cornerstone of Christianity. Hebrews 11:1 says, “Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.” Webster 2b says, “(1) : firm belief in something for which there is no proof (2) : complete trust”. The other side of faith is fear. Fear is a tormenter; without faith it’s impossible to please the Lord; and perfect love drives out all fear. Webster 1a says, “an unpleasant often strong emotion caused by anticipation or awareness of danger”. Two sides of the same coin…

My question is… what happens when life happens and you are afraid? Does that make you any less of a Christian because you are scared? Does that make you any less faithful because you have fear?

I went to the doctor’s office and they wanted to run some tests, no problem. They wanted to draw blood in order to run the tests, problem. The problem is that I don’t like needles. I have a history of problems with the process of drawing blood. The person may miss the vein or, I’ve had to be re-stuck because of one reason or another or, I’ve been hurt by the person drawing the blood. In all of these cases, I have high anxiety, or fear, of the blood drawing process. Due to these fears, I always alert the person because I want them to be aware. The reason for the awareness is this… people who are scared can/will do things that aren’t expected.

The nurse told me of an instance where the patient was afraid and when she said, “a little pinch”; the patient jumped… withdrew his arm, pulling the needle out and re-stuck himself in a different area. Now he’s bleeding from where the original stick hit the vein but they aren’t getting any blood. Now he’s yelling at the nurse because he jumped, like it was the nurse’s fault. Because of his fear, the nurse now warns the patient, waits for him to jump and then sticks him. She allowed his fear to show and then proceeds. She’s a smart cookie, in my book.

But, what happens when the object of fear is greater than a needle prick. What if the reason for the tests is what creates the fear? They want to do these tests to prove, or disprove, something. Of course, you never get scheduled for the tests right away. Then you never get the results right away. You have to deal with your fear and faith together while you wait and in this case time can be your enemy. The coin is standing on its side.

How DO we deal with both sides battling? How do we overcome our fear with faith? The answer isn’t a simple one because the battle is within ourselves. We have to work out this battle but we need support to do it. We need support because even when we fast and pray, it’s still there. It’s not just something that we can ignore…

One of the problems that I’ve learned while selling insurance, especially life insurance, is that people don’t want to talk about it. As long as I’m talking about health insurance, or supplements, everything is peachy keen. But, the moment that I speak about protecting your family, in case you don’t make it home from the hospital… things change dramatically. No one wants to talk about death and dying but it’s as natural as child birth. The same thing applies to faith and fear. No one wants to talk about the fear of whatever is going on. We only want to talk about the faith side. But, guess what? I’m dealing with the fear!!! I’m afraid and YOU don’t want to talk about it!!!

Again, how do we fix this? How can we help each other? We need to acknowledge the reality of our fears and support each other as we work to overcome our fears with faith. Allow the person to talk it out. Shutting them down in order to have a prayer meeting is good for YOU but is it good for THEM? It’s like Alcoholics Anonymous, we need to acknowledge what we’re dealing with before we can conquer it. Once, it’s conquered then we ALL con rejoice!!

In closing, please support one another. It builds everyone…

I love you ALL!!!
Stay blessed,

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