Is this for real?

The greatest obstacle to change is fear. We don’t want to change because we are afraid of the outcome. We are afraid of leaving what is comfortable to us. We are simply afraid. But, have you ever stopped to think about how you got to where you are now? You got to this place because of change.

I don’t care where you currently are… You didn’t start there. Just like today, yesterday we were looking at change with fear and uncertainty but something hit and change happened. Many of us are stubborn changers. Yes, stubborn changers. You know that it’s time to change. God has opened the heavens, showed you a sign, hit you on the head, and gave you a direct message saying, “It’s time to change” but you look at the message and reply, “Okay God, as soon as I’m done.” The interesting part is that, for me, this refusal to move is dipped in faithfulness, sprinkled in love, and wrapped in loyalty. But, the outcome of that is disobedience and hard-headedness…

When we don’t move WHEN God says, then we set ourselves, and others, up for the woo-woo!!! For those who don’t know, the woo-woo is where God says, “Since YOU won’t move, I’ll move you!!” Being forced to move by the Hand of God isn’t nice but, WE keep forcing His Hand. When He moves us, things get crazy. Many times, people’s feelings get hurt, the world is turned upside-down, and you literally have no choice but to move. I’ve seen it where God actually shutdown a business that I was working for in order to make me move. I recently saw where God used someone’s extreme illness as that “final straw” to bring a family back together.

But, here’s the fun part, when we move when it IS time… Oh My Goodness!!! When we move in God’s timing, things just seem to work. There’s no struggle. Things fall into place and it’s amazing. Instead of having the bumps and bruises of God’s forced Hand, we are left with smiles and wonderment, asking, “Is this for real?” But, we had to move at the right time. We have to overcome ourselves and the fears about change…

By no means am I saying that this is easy. Some of our fears are truly justified. There have been situations in our past that truly brought hurt and pain. The sheer thought of repeating similar situations only bring these feelings and fears back to the top. No one wants to repeat those times. But guess what? Fear is in the head. Faith is in the heart. We have to being willing to open our hearts and trust God that those crazy parts of change won’t be repeated. We have to give our hearts to change.

All I know is this… God created YOU as a creature of change. To ignore, or try to disallow, change is like drinking a gallon of water and expecting not to pee. Change is in you and must come out. The great part about it is that when we feel that urge AND handle our business… the weight will be lifted, we will be refreshed and rejuvenated AND we will be ready to take on the world!!!

Here’s the wrap-up,
You are greater than you give yourself credit. Don’t allow fear to keep you in a place where God has to force you to change. Move IN His timing and ALL things will be well. And if you’re afraid to move and need a friend, I’ll always be here to help you…

I love you ALL!!!
Stay Blessed,



How to deal with change…

Ecclesiastes 3:1 ESV says, “For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven:” From the very beginning, our lives are filled with changes. Nothing, other than God, ever remains the same. Everything changes. Life is change. Life is hard. Life is painful. Life isn’t fair. And if Life is all of these things then so is change.

The problem that we face is that we don’t deal with life properly and subsequently when life happens then we’re all jacked up. And just for the record, the words ‘Life’ and ‘Change’ can be interchanged throughout this entire letter as they are one in the same… The reason that we’re all jacked up is that we have learned to place our attention on specific events in our lives and we have deemed these moments as the turning point or catalyst that has created who we are. So, whenever new things happen in our lives that remind us of that historic moment, we reach back and respond to the new thing in the old way.

Here’s a question for you… Growing up, what was your best, or most favorite, birthday? Do you remember how old you were? For me, my coolest birthday was, I believe, my 8th or 10th birthday. I call it my Chocolate Birthday. This particular year my request from my parents was that I wanted nothing but chocolate!!! And guess what, they did it for me!!! I had chocolate cake with chocolate icing, chocolate milk, chocolate ice cream, chocolate candies everywhere… It was amazing!!! Kids bouncing from everywhere!!! Now, here’s the next part of the question… Do you remember the day after that special birthday? What about the day before?

You see, this is what we do. We hold fast to one moment, or event in time, and call that ‘ME’. Does my having a Chocolate Birthday make ME a Chocolate Birthday man? No… Now, that was a positive moment. What about the negatives? My parents beat me, I wasn’t born with a silver spoon in my mouth, I was adopted, my girlfriend left me, they never picked me to play basketball, and the stories go on and on. But, does this story encapsulate the entirety of who you are? Does that one passing moment forever change the makeup of what makes you the person you see in the mirror? Let me help you… NO, it doesn’t!!!

The key thing to remember is that these were passing moments. It is our choice to hold onto these moments. So, if we can choose to hold these moments with a death grip then we can also choose to hold them lightly. I’m not saying to just let them go as if they never happened because they did happen. But, we don’t HAVE to let these moments guide the rest our lives.

What’s even crazier is the fact that we hold to the negative moments more than the positives. In looking at life as a movie, there is a storyline that is played out from start to finish. It is OUR storyline but there are little plots scattered throughout. Have you ever seen the Young & the Restless? Why is Ms. Chancellor still alive? I’m sorry… SQUIRREL!!! But, this character has been on the series forever. She’s like the energizer bunny… going and going and going. But, her part doesn’t make the whole show. And that’s what I want you to take away today…

In dealing with life, we need to accept that it is what it is. The Bible calls it short and full of trouble. Frankie Beverley & Maze called it, “Joy and Pain”. I call it ever-changing…

So, how do you deal with change? Accept that change is inevitable and focus on your desired end. Focus on your goals. Focus on the finish line. Realize that change is only the hurdles standing between you and the finish line and jump over them AS you are running. Don’t stop at each hurdle. Don’t nurse each hurdle trying make sure it’s okay… NO, run and jump over each one. Sometimes, you will catch a hurdle with your foot or scratch your knee but that’ll only knock down the hurdle and slow you up… Keep running!!! When you get to the finish line and look back, all you’ll see is that fact that you ran the race!!!! The hurdles are inconsequential and unimportant!!! Change is the same way. Change happens… Keep it pushing and know that the race is worth it!!!

You are not what they said that you are!! You are a WINNER!!! You can do this!!!

I love you ALL!!!
Stay Blessed,