Together these are two of the most powerful words in the English language. The reason that they’re so powerful is because this phrase is a ‘request’ for power. The speaker is asking the listener to give up their power and put their faith in the one talking. This is NEVER easy to do because we all have our perceptions, concepts and ways of doing things. To give up this power is deep, even if only for a moment…
The problem that we face is that, all too often, we’ve been hurt or our trust has been hampered with. Our barriers of trust are always on full alert. We don’t want to let anyone in because we “can’t take another blow”. Sometimes our pride comes in and we feel like they don’t know what they’re talking about, they can’t do the job as well as me or they don’t understand my point of view.
As great leaders, we must first be great followers. There should never come a time when we aren’t following someone and I’m not just talking about being lead by God. No, we should always be connected. Always growing, always learning, always depositing… You see, we were designed to receive AND give. When we deny one of these two principles then we create dysfunction.
I’ve been a leader in more than a few different businesses. The ones that are the most successful are those that allow people to function in their roles. Why have a staff if YOU are going to do all of the work? At times, I am guilty and fall prey to this method of dysfunction. But, I’ve also told my people to pull me back in when I ‘step on their toes’. People can’t maximize their potential if we teach them how to do something and then WE do it.
There has to come a time when we, leaders, have to step back and trust them. We’ve taught you what to do… now do it. As leaders, we are there to oversee but when we feel that need to always jump in and take over then what good is that really doing? What are we teaching them when we do that? What are they learning? When we consistently do that, the people development isms and schisms about performing their duties. They can become unstable and unsure of themselves, which can literally stunt their growth and potential.
The crazy part is that the stronger the people are the more likely they will be to find outlets to function properly. There is an innate need, or desire, to get it done. Some will persevere and wait with us to get it together, while others will do the work elsewhere. Over the years, I’ve seen some of the greatest talent mishandled by overbearing leaders who wouldn’t allow them to do what they do. And the result is that they simply went somewhere else where they had the freedom to be themselves.
As leaders, we ask the people to trust us but guess what… The people are asking us leaders to trust them.
I love you ALL!!!