Every single day is an adventure. The key to our success within this adventure is our attitude and our character. And just to be clear, our attitude is how we see things and our character is who we are. Having these two things match up is the fun part.
Did you know that we were designed to be progressive? Meaning, that we should always be moving. We should never be standing still for any prolonged length of time. When we are standing still, there is more opportunity for us to get caught up in what’s going on around us. Whereas when we are moving, things have to catch us!!
A dear friend messaged me yesterday and put me on blast in a nice way. She spoke about how after reading one of my letters that it seemed to contradict my main theme of life and relationship. And that I was guilty of the same issues that I was upset with others about. Wow… This message hit me to my core because of this one thing… She told me how she felt. You see, while I was dealing with my cancer scare, she was too. She reached out to me and my response was to pray for her BUT I never reconnected to see how she was progressing. My lack of reconnection was discouraging to her. All at the same time, I’m angry with my ‘friends’ for not connecting.
This is the hard part. As true friends, we need to communicate with each other. As a friend, or someone concerned about you, when I ask how are you… then tell me. A smile without words doesn’t tell me anything at all. And actually, when you talk to someone and they don’t respond… that’s rude. I can only imagine how difficult it was for her to sit down and send me that message. It was hard. I know it was. But, as MY friend, she had to tell me and as HER friend, I had to respond. Sometimes, the conversations that we need to have are difficult but as friends, we should be able to come to each other, have the conversation, continue to love each other, cry or rejoice, and move on.
This is a true bunny trail and I know it. One of the sad things about having a lot people around you is that people believe the hype. What’s that supposed to mean? Just because I have 10 people around me doesn’t mean that even 1 person is responding to my needs. People have a tendency to assume that someone else is responding. When everyone believes that someone else is doing it then nothing gets done. That is one of the battles that we face… I initially told a select group of people about my cancer scare and the response, or lack thereof, was dreadful. But, my wife told me to expand my reaching out. I did and only a FEW of the people that I EXPECTED to come to my aid or encourage me did. Yes, a few, as in less than a handful of those EXPECTED but, I was truly blessed by ALL of those that responded that I did NOT EXPECT!!! It just showed me that we never truly know who is for us until things happen and that we should always love everyone.
As we grow, we are taken to different levels. We move up, grow up, man up, get up, shut up and pick up. The central message here is that we are going UP. Did you know that there is a ceiling to every level? Did you also realize that the ceiling of one level is the floor of another? As we continue moving up, not everyone will be on the same level at the same time. Not everyone will be on YOUR level and some you will leave behind. But, it’s okay. I have spent so much time trying to figure out why people do what they do or say what they say that I have missed the beauty of “going up”. Let’s face it… not only are there people not on the same level as you but some of these folks ain’t even in the same building…
There is a reason that we are in the circumstances, situations and positions that we’re in. Some people are great friends whereas others aren’t. Some overcome past hurts and disappointments whereas others don’t. Just keep in mind, no matter what state you’re in… your attitude and character got you there. As Christians, we try to blame God for stuff but it’s not Him… It’s YOU!!! There’s a reason why there’s a lot of people around that don’t connect with you… There’s a reason that you’re alone… There’s a reason that you’re single… There’s a reason why you’re married… There’s a reason that people love you… There’s a reason why people don’t… There’s a reason that you are treated a certain way on the job… There’s a reason… There’s always a reason…
My question to YOU is this… What’s the reason?
I love you ALL!!!